Why do we break new year’s resolutions? Have you set goals for 2020? Are you willing to take different steps to achieve your goals? If the answer is yes, Congratulations, it takes courage to take charge of your life.
In this post you will learn why we break our new year´s resolutions. In addition to that, I will show you how to avoid common mistakes and how to make goals you can stick to.
New Year’s resolutions have become a secular tradition in Europe and America. For most people, the focus is usually on self-improvement.
I assume that if you do have new year´s resolutions, they most likely will be found among the ones in the chart below:
Understand the hype behind new year’s resolutions
Were you able to achieve the goals you set in 2019? If yes, congratulations. Continue to follow the strategies that worked for you. I will be grateful if you can share it with us in the comment section.If your answer was No, it’s okay. Don’t feel guilty, you are not alone. according to www.statista.com Almost 92% fail to achieve their goals.
New year´s resolutions set us up for failure because our resolutions are usually the outcome of our emotions. New year new me, right? We tend to forget about common sense and proceed with making unrealistic goals.
Here are 4 reasons Why do we break new year’s resolutions :
1. Not knowing your why
2. You set unrealistic goals
3. You don’t make plans
4. You don’t take actions
Now, let’s me break it down
1. Not knowing your why
when setting a goal, it is important to take a moment to process this particular goal. Why it is so important that you are willing to put your energy and time into it. Knowing your why will fuel you through difficult patches and push you forward.
Let’s apply this logic to one of the most popular new year´s resolution, to lose weight. If your only reason to lose weight is to look good and feel more attractive, keeping up with your weight loss is going to be quite challenging. Mainly because your why is based on an emotion and our emotions are constantly changing.
On the other hand, if your why is something concrete that doesn´t change alongside your emotions, you´ll better your chances at achieving your goal. For example wanting to lose weight for your health, so you can be more active with your children, friends or partner, to feel more energetic and confident, to prove to yourself that you are stronger than you think or to build grit.
These are the whys that will keep you going when you feel like giving up
I want you to take a moment and write on a piece of paper your why. Make sure to constantly remind yourself about it, especially when the journey gets tough.
You set unrealistic goals
This is the most common mistake You and I make when we set goals. We underestimate what it actually takes to get things done and as a result, we end up setting unrealistic goals.
Be honest with yourself. You could start by simplifying things. Stay away from continuously overestimating yourself. It will only end up with you hurting your confidence when you realize you couldn´t accomplish a ”simple” task.
For example, if your goal is to lose weight this year, then you want to develop a new gym habit. If you are a newbie at the gym, hitting the iron once a week and doing maybe 20 squats every day will be enough to create a routine.
Why once a week you may ask? Because it is realistic for most people to achieve. If it then happens that you go to the gym more than once, you’ll be proud of yourself and it’ll boost your confidence to keep hitting the gym. That is why it is wise to start small and to improve as you move forward. To make little habits that will stick and eventually produce your desired end results.
On the other hand, if you started by hitting the gym 5 times per week but due to studies or work you can´t keep it up, it’ll generate frustration. You´ll start finding excuses to skip going and at the end you will stop going all together. The vicious circle continues.
Remember that water cuts through rocks not because it’s sharp, but because it’s consistent. So, no matter how small your goals are, be consistent.
Now that you have an insight as to why setting unrealistic goals is of no use, it is up to you to make more realistic ones.
You don’t make plans
During the process of achieving your goals, your plan will be your map. Why do you think entrepreneurs make business plans before they launch startups? Because entrepreneurs prepare themselves for any possible suprises that may occur, be it good or bad while running businesses. The same logic should be applied towards achieving goals set by you and I. At one point you’ll be overwhelmed by doubt, fear, or exhaustion.
When your emotions get the best of you, having a plan lets you take a step back, to take an objective look at what you are doing and why. It might help you pinpoint the source of your struggle, to recognize the things you know for sure are working and in what areas adjustments are to be made.
4. You don’t take actions
It doesn’t matter the knowledge you have acquired. What´s important is how you apply it.
The act of taking action sets apart those who only wish and talk about what they want or can do from those who actually make things happen. If you´ve made clear and realistic goals, you’ve made a plan for each one, then you might consider putting in the work required to make them a reality for YOURSELF.
Remember, it takes more than just dreams and wishful thinking to change your life, actions coupled with consistency are also needed.
4 TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS POST:
1. Know your why: knowing your why will keep you on track throughout your journey and will push you pass rough patches. Make sure your why is not totally based on emotions.
2. Set realistic goals: If you are here looking to achieve your goals, you might want to start by making them more simple. It`s best to start small and add on as you go. Each time you’ll reach a goal your confidence will go up and you´ll be more willing to continue. Being consistent is the key.
3. Make plans: By making a plan, you will have a tool that will guide you. Also, it will allow you to step back, take an objective look at what you are doing in moments of doubts.
4. Take actions: Here is the carrefour between the doer and the talker. As we stated before, knowledge becomes power only when it is used. If you want to change things for the better, you should be ready put in the work. To change your life, taking actions is a must.
I hope you enjoyed reading this post and understand why do we break new year’s resolutions. I wish you all the best for this new year. I´ll later write a post to encourage you to take actions
Until then, keep getting better and grow wealthy.
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